How do I respond?

In 'Courage to Change' they talk about some people having a long-standing habit of responding to problems by feeling like a helpless victim. How do I respond emotionally to problems?

I feel the need to have the answer or find the answer right away.
I feel tired that I have one more thing to deal with.
I feel scared that I won’t be able to deal with it.
I try to ignore it.
It weighs on my chest and stomach.
I feel like it may obliterate the façade of perfection that I have spent so many years developing.
I am scared that it will expose me as the fraud that I am.


What are some different ways that I can choose to respond?

I can say the serenity prayer.
I can remind myself that no problem will change who I am as a person.
I can remind myself that I deserve love and care.
I can choose to delay responding for a few moments.
I can remind myself that I have a lot of resources available to me.
I can choose to look at and acknowledge the problem but not internalize it.

Today I am grateful for options.